September 23, 2009
Introducing a new lube into the bedroom can be tricky. But for increasing pleasure with and without a partner, a good lubricant can make all the difference.
When you decide to take the plunge and suggest trying lubricant, know that some people may feel uncomfortable about the idea. Your partner might feel criticized, thinking that if they were doing a “good job” of turning you on, you wouldn’t need it. In reality, and especially if you’re using toys together or enjoying anal play, extra lube can mean a smoother, sweeter, sexier experience for everyone involved.
But how do you choose the right lube? There are lots of options and your choice will take into account the way you’ll use it, what kinds of materials it will come into contact with, your personal sensitivities and environmental considerations.
Here are some of the pros and cons of the main choices available.
Oil-based lubes are most often made from mineral oil and/or petroleum jelly. They are long-lasting and usually very slippery. However, some evidence suggests that they can contribute to vaginal and yeast infections in women and many people find these lubes excessively greasy and hard to clean up. Oil based lubes should not be used with condoms, especially latex ones, as they can compromise their strength.
Silicone-based lubricants are usually very slick and resist drying out and getting sticky. They are water resistant so they’ll keep doing what they do best even in the water. However, that makes them a little harder to wash out of your sheets and clothes. Silicone lubes, ironically, are not recommended for use with silicone toys.
Water-based lubes are the most popular choice with most people and for good reason. They’re compatible with all condoms and toys and are available in a range of slippery textures, from light and slick (like Sliquid H2O) to thick gels that stay right where you want them (Sliquid Organics gel). The drawback? Some water-based lubes tend to dry out and get sticky faster than others. You can always re-apply.